The Secret To Manifesting A Positive Self-Esteem & Attracting Healthy Relationships
In short, the Law of Attraction, a New Thought philosophy, says that "all thoughts turn into things eventually." And while many believe that attaining a healthy level of self-love and acceptance, attracting a wonderful and uplifting partner, and gaining material or non-material things is extremely difficult or near impossible, the Law of Attraction begs to differ.
• Do you feel as though you're stuck in a rut and want more out of life?
• Do you crave a better job, a more positive self-talk, a loving partner, a beautiful house, perhaps children?
You have the power within you to manifest those things into your life...and the best part is, it's so easy! If you are motivated and willing to put all of your energy into creating the life that you want, you can achieve anything.
The Law of Attraction says that you align yourself with people who are on the same frequency as you. That means that, if you are a person who lacks self-confidence, searches for love in all the wrong places, treats yourself and others poorly, and fails to recognize your self-worth - you are essentially attracting people into your life who behave in the same manner.
Of course, this is not an ideal situation, as many people believe that by gaining a life partner, one's own shortcomings and issues of poor self-worth will magically disappear. This could not be further from the truth. The journey to finding true and healthy love starts with you!
But how do you start to change your negative thinking pattern and build your self-esteem?
1. Self Care
You are the most important person in your universe, and because of that you need to take the time to look after and nourish your soul. Strive for one hour per day in which you can be grateful for and reflect on experiences and relationships. Create a gratitude journal to guide your positive thoughts, participate in activities or hobbies that fuel your fire, and allow yourself to feel how powerful you really are.
2. Change Your Inner Monologue
It is so important to realize that you truly deserve to be happy! If you believe that you will not find anyone to love, that you have failed in an endeavor, or that you are not worthy of love and respect, you are not only sending those thoughts into the universe, but also letting others know that you are not in a place of self-love. Additionally, our body language and verbal cues are more powerful than you may believe and give the people you meet insight into who you are.
3. Be The Qualities You're Seeking in a Partner
It's unrealistic to have a partner who lives up to all of your expectations when you are unable to do so yourself. Surely you are looking for a partner who is strong, mature, loving, nurturing, and responsible, but do you poses those characteristics too?
Look at your friend circle, do they have the same morals and ideals that you do? By befriending people with the same values that you have, want, or seek on a regular basis, you're able to adopt those values more efficiently while having the opportunity to meet a partner with those same qualities. Additionally, if you hold the characteristics that you want in a partner, it'll be that much easier to recognise those who fit into your idea of the perfect partner.
4. Be Comfortable with Being Alone
Many turn to external sources to make them happy. In this way, they receive almost all of their validation from others which is essentially the same as putting your life into the hands of strangers. People are also prone to believing that being alone means that they are lonely. This is not the case. In fact, being alone creates a safe space in which to develop as a human being, and to trust your own inner voice. We do not need another person to complete us, we are already complete...but having some wonderful is always a true blessing.
Having said that, once you're in a place in your life whereby you feel confident and happy with yourself, and you know who you are and what you deserve, you will be able to attract a partner who lives up to your expectations and who mimics your values.
Signs of a healthy relationship
• you are constantly learning from one another
• you encourage one another to be better, to have goals, to work hard towards something
• you can acknowledge disagreements and take the other person's feelings into consideration
• you are not afraid to be vulnerable with your partner
• you feel a sense of security with your partner
• you realize that together you are a great team, but that you are two separate people with different friends, hobbies, and aspirations
• you can turn to your partner for support and comfort during times of stress or turmoil
Go out, be wonderful, and have the life that you want and deserve!